friends who stay

and friends who go....

...been contemplating writing something about friends who know and friends who don't yet know, and those who knew and decided to stay away.

It started with R asking whether he should tell D. Refer to previous blog - D is a college friend who recently had his second child. We, the boys, are ninongs for his first. Well, R is itching to tell D and the boys have different stands (obviously).

Then there's my chat with Jon, who said he'd lost some friends along the way. I am fortunate, that most friends who now know remain my friends. I may have lost a few, but the ones who stayed are enough. They're all I needed.

Of course, there's the matter of those who have yet to know. I guess there's a pecking order to these things, call it level of friendship (to borrow Sunshine's). So I wonder, if D is a good enough friend to have us stand as godparents to his firstborn, level of friendship says he has to know.

So I support R for his wanting to tell D about himself, despite the protestations of M and K, who, by the way, both think R's coming out to D is tantamount to their own. I disagreed, of course, although something tells me it's more about me wanting D to know about me by association; that would make it easier for me to break the news this time, though am uncertain after this point if he'd like to hear it at all.

And if D stays away after finding out? I can't speak for the boys but I've said it - I have enough. Icing on the cake.

Word of caution: timing is everything.