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The last time I used GPS navigation I ended up on a naval training station at Yerba Buena Island in San Francisco, when all I wanna do is hang out at Union Square. Countless times I seem unable to follow directions thrown off by a robotic female voice. I could sense the system's growing frustration at me being its user, and had it been a real person she would have shouted "Wrong turn! Destination missed. You moron!" at me.

I prefer written directions. I am good at it, too. In tests, the first thing I do is read and carefully follow. Likewise, I print maps off Google to plan my destination. I've never been lost using maps, compared to using GPS.

It helped that I was using an updated map, yes. Much like in everything, maps or instruction manuals help us a lot to know where we are going, and how far will it take us to get there. Which brings me to an intesting article on MSN, something about the road map to boyfriend-land.

Yes, Sunshine. A road map for guys like me. I dunno if it will apply to you and Foxy, but read on and tell me.

First turn, the fabulous initial dates. Reading the signs on whether he's interested, giving out signals that you are. Or the other way around. If you end the first time wondering if he wants to see you again...need to practice more in reading signals (and not the printed kind).It's quite easier these times, with text messaging and email...but still, a lot of people could be so clueless.

Next, turn right. Once you've established that you've passed the chemistry test and discovered mutual yet (I insist!) subtle attraction, comes the checklist. Call it an assessment of potential. This is an unwritten list of qualities and requirements that tell you whether someone is boyfriend material for you. Yes, it's the first time you'll honestly use this word next to thinking about the subject. And mind you, this turn is a deal breaker. If he comes off below the scale, turn left and run.

On the next turn, things happen a bit more frequently. SMS almost hourly, calls happen all throughout the day. Of course, this excludes the time you take to do things together, like workout daily or have dinner or quick lunches and see opening night movies at Greenbelt 3. It's supposed to be gradual, this need to share everything with him, like how you think your landlord is screwing your neighbor or that he suspects his boss to be gay. Warning signs must be erected to watch out for wearing out a good thing - you don't have to know what one had for lunch all the time, anyway. Gradually you'll settle into spontaneous sharing of meaningless chatter that does seem odd but never turns out to be boring. Connected need not mean tied up.

You're coming along nicely. Next right turn, sharing gets a bit more personal. Sharing personal space, that is. First, the toothbrush so discretely (but not unnoticeably) placed on your counter. Or the towel hanging next to yours. Or that extra bar of soap. Whatever it is, you may react to this invasion differently. You may freak out at first. But don't fret - if you're in synch with him and he's with you, you've probably almost arrived to boyfriend-land. The trick is to be comfortable first that this isn't invasion of your space or his, it's sharing your spaces. In time you'll learn to make extra space for his stuff on your drawers and shelves.

Finally, the BIG turn - C stands for commitment. Yes, this time you really have to talk about it. The turns before this? All that talk is nothing compared to this. In fact, the initial turns might be done in silence, just reading signals will do - which tells you how well you two have read each other and continue to like being together. Careful here - talk is really the thing. What you say can be and will be used against you.

It's the official time to talk - the "we're on the same page" talk. Assumptions are out - meaning you can't afford to make any. You need to bring it out in the open. If you like someone and wanted to see him exclusively, you have to say so. You have to clarify wants and expectations. You have to agree. Key to boyfriend-land is mutual consent. When you've reached the point when both of you agree that "I don't want to date anyone else" then you've arrived. Then you make the rules. Again, mutual consent.

And then, and only then, there's boyfriend integration. It's making everyone who knows "you" know. Whether you wanted to introduce each other as boyfriends or partners will be up to you. By this time, you're comfortable talking about the future - yours together.

So, read and follow the signs carefully. Whether it's your first time or you've taken this road before, use an updated map, and your heart as a compass.