Questions

"Have you ever stopped asking if you have found the one and instead asked yourself if you were the one?"

This was the time when I asked Darnel about how do I know if DA is the one. He threw this at me with the tone he usually uses for me when he's exasperated for my acting like a third-grader.

He's right, of course. I've never asked this myself, if I was ever "the one" for the few relationships I've had - JS, AK, JL...maybe even DA. I mean, if I ever was the one, why didn't any of them last?

Not that DA is a closed book, but am getting frustrated minute by minute when thinking about what doesn't work for us.

It's a case of outside looking in, I guess. Selfish that I am, it was always about me. But still, at the rate my world is moving, it's hardly surprising I think this way.

Options. Effort.Self-preservation.

The first 2 I am willing to compromise on, relax my assumptions a little. But self-preservation? Isn't that our primary instinct? It's like we're hard-wired to protect ourselves from harm.

So I guess I'll be asking "Are you the one?" for a while.