For the not yet jaded (aka Sunshine)

"Never make someone a priority when that someone only makes you an option."

Saw this on one of my new blog-faves (see comments on one of my rants) and quickly got to writing something about what I see everyday - the seemingly lack of balance in the way most "relationships" are.

Take for instance Sunshine. Everybody I know who knows who she wants knew he's only stringing her for a ride, maybe as an ego-booster. Ugly. That's what we called the loser. But what does she do? She thinks he's everything. Loka, she even ditched what's supposed to be a great Friday night at Cuisine with us her friends, after running into the loko at Chili's. Grrr.

Or JT, crafting his gym habits around AQ's. Oh well, not that AQ even considers JT an option, but the balance is so tipped on AQ's favor that I can't figure out how JT could live with it.

Or PE, tiptoeing around NU because he's so scared that their delicate truce of a relationship (if you can call it that) would be shattered with a single act or word that might offend NU anytime. It's like a ticking timebomb. Hell, it makes me angry to even think about how NU has pulled wool over PE's eyes and made him believe he's in love with someone who's perfect. Perfect, my ass!

Each day, the imbalance grows. I was not immune. I used to be someone's option as well, but I woke up soon enough before the dream turned into a nightmare. Took me sometime to pick myself up again, but I did sooner. In most cases, waking up from this self-inflicted coma follows brief moments of denial plus even longer periods of self-pity, but we all wake up.

I admire Foxy for what she did after realizing she and her lover wanted different things. She ended it, right then and there. Well, almost. The jury's still out for these two, but at least, Foxy had the courage to see the breakup through. Now I heard they were at it again. Well....

Who was it who said that the key to happiness is to find someone who wants you back? Too bad there's a shortage of that around, it seems. Too bad.